12 juin 2009
Answer to some pornblogger
Alright, I got a bit fired up. What this guy is saying isn't so insulting really - I understand his point, and even if he was really insulting me and didn't have a point, it's not a big deal either. Just a pornblogger using his freedom of speech on the Internet, not harming anyone. It's just late at night, I had three exams today and I have another one tomorrow and I should be working on it, and so I found a way to procrastinate by answering that guy. It made me angry though, how he's making such a cliché of me, and what he says is not fair.
http://artandporn.com/judy-minx-mix-and-a-hilarious-sasha-grey-blog/
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Hey,
I'm Judy Minx, and I've been a porn actress for two years now.
I'm not an existentialist, and I am not a philosophy student at the Sorbonne.
I do have North African blood though - you got that one right.
My thoughts about sexwork are NOT excuses to legitimize my career. I actually say on several occasions in articles of my blog that the political and theoretical aspects of sexwork are NOT the reason why I do porn. I do porn because porn is the best way, or at least the most suitable to my skills, tastes and needs, that I have found to make money - I do my job for just about the same reasons that most people do their jobs.
The reason why I write about the theoretical and political aspects of sexwork are NOT because it's "hip" either. I write about them because I am and have always been interested in non-conventional sexual choices - sex for money, kinky / BDSM sex, and queer sex. How and why the people who make these choices are oppressed minorities. This is what I talk and think about most. Sometimes I use "pseudo-intellectual language" to write about that and maybe it's because I've been told that sex isn't a serious matter or cannot be intelligently and rationally discussed, that I over-compensate with academic language.
I don't mind that you prefer the anal shots - fair enough. I am glad that people watch my porn and jerk off to it. That is what it's for. As I've written on my blog too : I don't make porn that has huge subtitles saying "this person is a sexworker, she is a respectable person who is intelligent and fights for political rights". I make porn for people to jerk off to. Most of them won't give a fuck who I am, and what I'm thinking. And it's fine. My blog is not for them. My blog is for the people who want to read it. It has happened to me sometimes to be interested in what such or such porn actress had to say. Plus, my blog doesn't only target porn-watchers like you, but also people who've never seen my porn, and among them people who think porn is evil. In lots of articles I am trying to write for them. This pseudo-intellectual language is the only one they'll take seriously.
I don't mind that you're not interested in my blog. I mind the contempt and sarcasm in your post. It's so easy to joke about it, from where you stand. You are not confronted with what it means to be asked a hundred questions a day about your job, by people who think you are either a victim of patriarchy or someone with low moral standards. There's also the people who are "just curious" and can't help asking intrusive questions. You are not the one who gets harassed by a society that thinks it's such a big deal to fuck for money. People keep telling me what I should and should not do, questioning my choices, asking me to justify myself. It gets in you. After you've been asked the question a hundredth time, you ask yourself. You doubt. You wonder. You feel like you have to answer them, you feel that you have to find a thousand intellectual and political reasons for what you're doing, although you shouldn't have to answer more questions than any other person who's working any job.
You know what ? I'd like it to be so easy and widely accepted, that I wouldn't have to ask myself these questions. Mostly, my blogposts about porn and sexwork were not written spontaneously, out of the blue: they were written as answers to questions I was asked, to someone who called me anti-feminist, to someone who said they pitied me. This text I'm writing right now will end up on my blog. I'm angry that you're making fun of how I'm made to think about this all the time. Seriously, I'm tired of it too. But as long as most people will think sex can't be work, I'll feel it's my mission to explain that yes, it's my job, and I'm a worker.
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Dans le même registre :
je réponds à un commentaire d'un mec qui dit que l'enfance malheureuse de la pauvre Lorelei Lee explique pourquoi elle a choisi de devenir actrice porno qui est évidemment un job dans lequel elle se fait exploiter par des mafieux.
Similar situation :
I answer to a comment written by a guy who thinks poor Lorelei Lee's unhappy childhood explains why she chose to become a porn actress, which is obviously a job in which she gets terribly exploited by evil pimps.
"Hey dumbass, what about YOUR life ?
Was your life a happy life ?
Has one single person ever tried to explain to you that the reasons why
you chose the job you’re working are linked to childhood traumas ? What about a person you’d never seen or talked to ? What about a hundred people you’d never seen or talked to ? What about a thousand ?
THAT is abuse. The way we as porn actresses can’t get a fucking break from amateur psychoanalyses.
%@$# dammit it pisses me off !"
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Talking about powerful women in porn, Madison Young has a brand new website and it's amazing !
And it was designed by another powerful porn woman, Courtney Trouble !
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And finally, I wanted to share this great quote with you :
"If you can't be a good example, then you'll just have to be a terrible warning"
Apparently it's Catherine Aird who said it, I have no idea who that is and I won't research it now.
Commentaires
People can't now understand how a person could be interested in political things and be also open to allow herself to earn money by sex...And they're too curious to undertand that.
That's why you'll help them in a way, to figure what is it, change maybe what they think by show them the inside...
It's another big work, but you do well already...
It's "funny" (so to speak) how sexuality is becoming more and more accepted as a mass market (it's cool and accepted to watch porn, to buy sex toys; swinging is openly considered hype by some...); yet working in this business is still widely considered shameful.
In this particular case, it's not being criticized as shameful in itself, but the reaction is that if your exposing your own views about sex, while actually being a sex worker, then it must be that you're trying to justify yourself.
I've always been feeling that the shame is actually projected from viewers themselves. Much easier to think that sex workers are simple, sex-craved (or exploited, for some) persons. Fits the need for direct stimulation and solitary relief. No question asked and no headache.
Just my instant-2 cents... i'm very interested in all this but i miss time and tranquility right now. I'll follow your discussion on his blog
Thanks for the info. If I’m in Berlin during that time, I will drop by. The venue and everything will be posted on your blog I guess.
NYC can get on your nerves, but overall it’s okay I think. The city has a very positive energy. I like that. But it has become very hipster-ish and also conservative in a way in the last years, that’s the downside of it.
I think no matter what the particulars of this situation are, it is a good exercise to articulate your stance and share your response. I am really impressed by your ability to vocalize the complexities of a situation...like you said the other night "I play at being really upset because I am so involved in this...well I guess I am not playing...but maybe I am too..." and also it's awesome to show this guy you are real and reactive- to not just let him hide behind his condescendingly crafted blog and highly ironic tone!
My bad - if you think so
Hey Judy
Hear me out. I did not mean to sound disrespectful in the least, and frankly the worst thing I probably said (or sounded smarmy in doing so) was that you possess a good amount of knowledge of post-modern theory, which I'm sure you do. You can probably easily kick my ass in a discussion of Lacan, Baudrillard or Zizek. Besides, being a student at the Sorbonne sounds more like a compliment than anything else in my book.
But check this out. You are smart enough to know that 99.99% of all "porn bloggers" are in it to make money. So you and I are in fact in the same boat. Now I'm not going to reveal all my porn blogging secrets in case other blokes are reading this but my "condescendingly crafted blog" as the other poster wrote is for the most part crafted in a way so that a post like the one I did, would make people become more interested in you and would be more prone to buy a membership. I get a cut, John gets a cut, you get publicity and more work. That's the bottom line. The only "ironic tone" as that guy above me put it is the irony that you got more sore with me about mentioning literature and philosophy than your work. Hey, as I said, it's my business too, sweetie, and I think you're great. But if you look at the post a little closer you'll see that I was actually much more 'dissing' Sasha Grey, not you. The only irony is that you got mad at me over the intellectual stuff when the other 99.98% of 'porn bloggers' would have written highly intelligent copy like "hot teen French slut takes it up the ass, join now". I have my own practical reasons for writing the copy that I do, exactly the way you have your own reasons for being an adult actress, because I too feel this is the best way or most suitable or whatever else to my skills and needs at the time, like you said. I must say I am very intrigued by your both smart and witty rejoinder and your interest in discussion so I'd actually very much like to stay in touch. Finally, while I know exactly where you're coming from, I think your anger at me is just a little misdirected. I would vent more at your 'fans' many of whom I am sure download your work from file sharing sites and from which none of us get a dime. That's the problem with the industry these days, not me being ironic. As I said, I make money from signups not from selling ad space like fleshbot or luke ford or whatever. I just happen to write copy that isn't a full blown splog (although I do that on other sites). So that's that. I think I like you even more now that we've had our first fight!
Je t'embrasse
Bunny
Cliche'
Especially now that we have touched base, I categorically say that I was NOT making a cliche out of you. Sasha Grey is another story, though.
Last thing
In response to another comment, being in the sex industry in the US has very mixed feelings throughout the population,depending on where you are of course. But the interesting thing about the Sasha Grey Blog is that while that blogger has a condescending attitude is the sociological aspect of Sasha's rise to fame in context of American attitudes towards both sex and ambition. "Fucking your way to the top" has always been present in all countries but it's certainly popular and sensationalized in the US, now, however, it is not only accepted but has taken on a whole different intensity in Sasha's case.
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